Rejection...

Can You Hide From It...?

Rejection is probably by far one thing which I fear, one thing which for a long time I struggled to deal with and here and there still have my challenges but then what does one do when faced with rejection?

Often I have resolved, "because I cannot deal with it, I will forever strive to avoid situations which might expose me to rejection." Sounds like a good idea right?

From experience I have unfortunately learned that whilst it might sound like a good idea theoretically, it isn't very practical... how do you progress without opposition? How do you overcome without experience? How do you build courage and an unwavering spirit?

Nelson Mandela once said, "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear."

I've been exposed to factors which have taught that the best way to deal with rejection is to accept, yes to accept. Accept that sometimes rejection is God's protection, accept that I am worthy of better, accept that if I live for people's acceptance I will die from their rejection, accept that your rejection might be your redirection, accept that although a rude one, your rejection was an awakening,

Above all, never reject yourself. Love yourself enough to know you deserve better, respect yourself enough to walk away from any rejection which taints and takes away from you, never stop believing in yourself, rejection should never lead to insecurity. You are enough, he/she/they were never ready for what you had to offer, knock on bigger doors, you have been enabled. He/she/they ignore you? Treat you like a thing of naught? Declined your application? Disapproved of you and your moral standing? It's fine! Move on! It's not the end, never was! It's a redirection, take those steps.

I have learned to allow my rejection to lacerate me from situations which would lead to my laceration. 

- I am Pam, The Nubian Goddess, an African Woman of Substance -