UNREQUITED LOVE...

Unrequited love..., what is unrequited love? So many of us suffer from this one-sided love, be it in a friendship, companionship, relationship, marriage. But why???

We sometimes come across situations where we find ourselves feeling as though we're constantly giving but what we're giving isn't reciprocated. This goes both for men and women but being a woman, I'll speak from a woman's perspective. 

As a woman, it's natural to instantly wonder and assume, no matter your level of confidence, is he not into me? Am I not what he needs? Why does it feel like I'm forcing him to be with me? Why should I always make the first move? Worse, is there someone else? Is that why he's distant or almost unavailable to me? While it might be advisable to give 100% even when your partner gives 50%, sometimes this takes from you, to a point where you even lose yourself. A partnership is between 2 people and both individuals should give of themselves for the success of that partnership.

In situations where you feel you're love or efforts aren't reciprocated, you need to ask yourself, have I done all that I could've and should've as a partner? If the answer is yes then the next best thing to do is to approach your partner. Communication and brutal honesty is so vital, you cannot live by assumptions and make misinformed conclusions. 

Learn to know and understand your partner, are things the way they are because maybe indeed this is not what he wants? Can we change it or do we accept and move on? Could there be things he is hiding from you which is preventing him from showing all his affection (other spouses)? Or maybe just maybe the poor guy isn't aware of all your expectations and would willingly meet them had you disclosed these to him? Again, all these unanswered questions can only be answered through open and honest communication. Don't be that girl or guy who is single but in a relationship.

Problems can be fixed, but unrequited love is a tragedy and a curse of a lonely heart, you shouldn't have to suffer from unrequited love... You are better, you deserve better, go out and get it!